Reality Check!

Let's just put it out there ... making mature, adult decisions SUCKS!  That's the nicest thing I can say about it ... it blows, it sucks. (I'm even sticking my tongue out as I say it.)

We thought we had it so hard as kids, but wow, did I ever underestimate adulthood.  You think it will be all fun and games ... new cars, vacations (anywhere you want, not the sucky vacations your parents planned for you), getting ice cream and Count Chokula for dinner (okay, I will admit that I have done this once or twice) ... but man being an adult is HARD!

So all those years in my younger days I needed a huge REALITY CHECK!!!

So here goes ...

To all those rebellious teenagers out there,

Stop trying to grow up so fast!!!  Life is not easier, better, more fun as an adult!  Life is hard.  You may think it is hard now ... Wait 10 years before you say that and look back to where you are now.  You will wish you could be back there.

Enjoy being young and virtually carefree!  I wish with all my heart that the biggest decision I had to make today was what college should I go to!

The world is a scary place.  There are real life monsters around every corner that will threaten to take all the joy out of life if you let it.  There are big decisions to make.  Many of them do not have a good solution.  Sometimes they are down right hard as hell to make.  Many times these decisions will hurt ... and maybe not just you but other people as well.

Enjoy movies, shopping trips, and spring break.  In the future, those same things might weigh you down when you realize the real cost involved.

Don't complain about car insurance ... seriously!  There will come a day when the expenses looming on the horizon for you will feel so out of whack and so unbelievable that you think you are going to drown, literally.

Get a job.  Save.  Every paycheck.  It may not seem like much now, but in 10 years you will wish you had that savings and you won't care so much about those turquoise sparkly Chuck Taylor's that were calling your name.

Your parents don't OWE you anything ... You owe them EVERYTHING.  Stop complaining when they won't buy you everything you want ... you know why?  Because you will be better for it.  In 10 years, you will wake up and be incredibly ahead of the curve by understanding the consequences of frivolous spending.  The opposite is waking up in mounds of debt that seemingly don't end and realizing you may be too late to join the party of people screaming "I'M DEBT FREE" and really living the good life because they made smart decisions when they were younger.

Let your parents, teachers, government, and all the other adults in your life worry about the adult decisions ... enjoy this time of your life!

Go to the movies.  Take some shopping trips.  See FL during Spring Break.  Do some joy-riding.

Because one-day all too soon, you will be looking back, as I am right now and wondering what in the world you ever had to worry about ... in light of the adult struggles you are facing now.

Your-friendly-reminder-to-not-grow-up-so-fast!

Question of the Week

What is your biggest fear ...

and what are you going to do in 2013 to overcome it?

My Mistake

If I had my life to live over ... I'd dare to make more mistakes next time. -Nadine Stair

I came across this quote this morning and for some reason it really struck me ... probably because I am constantly berating myself for mistakes I've made in the past.  

I have a had time letting go of them ... They even creep up on me when I least expect it.

But the reality is, there is no way for me, or anyone else for that matter, to know in hindsight whether or not we would be the people we are today without those mistakes.

I, for one, probably am who I am today BECAUSE of those mistakes, not IN SPITE of them.

It makes us feel better to hear Dr. Phil and Oprah and even our Pastors tells us IN SPITE of those mistakes.  But honestly we celebrate those mishaps BECAUSE they make us who we are.

Now, I certainly don't believe we should be making mistakes on purpose or deliberately ... but I do think we should be celebrating the ones we have already made.

For me, it should be even easier.  See, I am a Christian and because of Christ, my mistakes don't matter anymore.  I've been forgiven and they have been forgotten.  

But the Devil knows my weakness for finding flaws in my life and myself.

I will dare to say that even my biggest mistake, which I'm afraid I will share here, in some ways has led me to where I am now.  That doesn't make it right.  That doesn't mean I didn't screw up.  But it does mean that it forever changed me ... It made me different in a lot of ways and THAT has led me to right where I am today ... which is not where I want to be, but by the grace of God it's not where I was then!

So today I am just going to come right out and say it ... I am grateful for my mistakes.  I am grateful that I have screwed up, messed up, done wrong and erred.  I might have missed a great opportunity back then ... but then I wouldn't be who I am today!  I may not be perfect.  I may not even be good or great.  But I am who I am and right now that is for the better!